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Clothes are be a way for an uncooperative ex to try to exercise control or mess with your plans - agree with other posters that it's best to get as much as you can independently, even if you only see your kid(s) once a fortnight.
My ex's favourite was to do the mid-holiday changeover with my by dressing my son in his school uniform... caught me out the first time as I was driving straight to a holiday destination and had to buy a new pair of trainers for him as he was in school shoes.
Clothes are be a way for an uncooperative ex to try to exercise control or mess with your plans - agree with other posters that it's best to get as much as you can independently, even if you only see your kid(s) once a fortnight
This works both ways...I will share a great example of why we put the kids in old clothes when their father collects them.
We once let the eldest (then 6) take his white Real Madrid strip to his dads cause he wanted to show him and it came back with Lasagna stains all over it... We are not paying good money for the father and his new wife to treat items we work hard for with no respect.
My tip would be to get some clothes of your own that they can wear when at yours. Obviously when they are older and more responsible they will take what they think they need but in turn they will remember to take it back in good condition,
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