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Hi Snickermunch
Can l ask what the outcome of this was? I have a very similar situation as you and, if possible, would like to close my case. I am the parent who opened it.
Thanks
@markmc There is no 'end result' as yet. I closed the case, they closed it. But the arrears apparently remain. I've written to them several times asking for clarification on their figures. Basically as I see it - I've done the maths - they've taken my 2016/17 salary and dividends and simply applied them to every year since, hence the massive arrears. They want all the profits but won't take into account the years when there are company losses and the previous profits paid my dividends - which they've already calculated a liability on. So effectively I would be making payments twice on the same amount. There's no way that is either legal or morally right, so given that I am entirely confident that they are wrong, I have told them I'm happy to go to court. My ex hasn't told them about over £7.5k worth of maintenance that I've paid so that's included in their figures, although fortunately I have bank statements proving what I've paid. If I did not have that information to prove it, I was told I would have to pay it again, so that's a word to the wise.
I honestly don't know what the next steps are; I suppose I'll wait for either a summons or for them to write back with revised figures, which I've calculated to be about £1500 if they go by the book. I'm not worried about a summons at all because I'm wholly confident that their numbers are wrong, but you can now only write them a letter, or ring them up and be on hold for an eternity - or wait. They're complete muppets as far as I'm concerned, so I'm happy to wait.
@snickermunch hi, I would recommend this support group for paying parents: https://www.facebook.com/groups/239699060076601
@snickermunch wondering how this went. Similar situation myself, potential tribunal coming up. Wondering to hit the close button just before. Avoid years of hassle. Will have it one way or forms again. Just need a breather at moment.
Hi Snickermunch
Can l ask what the outcome of this was? I have a very similar situation as you and, if possible, would like to close my case. I am the parent who opened it.
Thanks
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