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Hi im new to CMS, to cut along story short my ex wife stop me from seeing my kids, untill i went through CMS, even though i paid her with out fail, it turns out they wanted another £20 more off me, my trouble is she was expecting more, she live other side of the country and refuses to meet me, so at weekend i do 460 miles to fetch my kids and take them back again each time i have them. I explain this, they said i could claim fuel expenses i now filled form in twice with all my fuel receipts it now been 2 months and nothing been done i ring every fortnight and ask what going on, as tbh im [censored] struggling now with my sons birthday and xmas coming up, it seem most my wages go on feul and child maintance, as i try and have them 2 to 3 times a month, plus it seems to cause alot of wear and tare on my car desperately need tyres now, anyone else have any idea when i can get some expenses back towards fuel, one of the reason i agrued my case about maintance was distance and i have to do all driving otherwise i wouldnt get to see them.
hi and thanks for sharing
Do you have an order for contact or is it just a mutual thing?
At the moment it a mutal thing,although way things are going probably have to go to court, i even sent all my fuel receipts proved i do millage i can even show them my mot certificates if CMS dont believe me, there just dragging there heels, i also sent them an email now, apparently they need to contact my ex to prove what im saying is true. Knowing her she probably disagree with it all. Plus i explained to them my jobs seasonal so in summer i can earn alot more than i do in winter months now my pay has dropped right down now it winter too which dont help matters
I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles to see your children, the CMS can sometimes make a difficult situation worse! All I can suggest is that you. Keep on at them, but if you don't get anywhere it might be worth making an official complaint about t.
All the best
Yeah keep on their tail and i would consider a contact order tbh because you may be able to make the mother meet you halfway if their is considerable distance
How does that work, im starting to do the court procedure now, as she stop me from seeing them, it about 230 miles round trip which is tiring after a full day at work, plus i then have to take them home and drive back again so 460 miles done in a weekend works out about £60a time, plus wear and tear on my car, so far this year i been replacing every thing as it just wears out.
It will be up to the court as to whether they order shared travel, they don't always, though I have to say we do seem to be hearing more of it on here than we used to I think. It's a matter of making an arrangement of where to meet and when, and being able to contact each other if stuck in traffic etc. Of course, even if the court does order it, you ex may breach the order by refusing to actually travel, so if the court does order shared travel, then you could ask the court to emphasize to your ex the penalty for failing to comply.
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