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- Hello i was paying csa to the mother of my child for nearly 2 years now, i have had no contact in that time i got threatened and bad mouthed and it made me go into a depression(currently on meds), but her ex spoke to me on friday telling me hes got his 2 kids and one of her family members has my child, i have had no communication from social services maybe because am at different address? But since jan csa have been taking money out of my wages to give to her which is spending it on herself, where do i stand?
You need to find out where your child is before working out what to do. Its sad that you haven't seen your child for 2 years. Did you apply to the courts with the C100 form? You can speak to social services yourself if you are worried - which family member has you child and would that person be the best for caring for them? What happened leading to your ex handing over the child and is it likely to be permanent? You could also make contact with the school/nursery if appropriate and you are on the birth certificate.
Agree with Champagne, you need to find out where your child is.
You could start by contacting Children's Services and / or school / nursery if you are on the birth certificate.
If those avenues fail, you can consider making an application to the court on C4 for a find and seek order to locate your child.
You could also contact CMS once you know where your child is to ensure the money is going to the correct place.
I hope you can re-establish some contact with your child.
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