Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
My wife and i split up around 4-5 months ago and i now am looking some advice on child support and how much i should pay.
At the start i just asked my ex how much she would like child support to make things a little easier and so she asked for £450.00 month which i agreed too.
A few months on and we have now purchased our own new homes although she has a new partner due to move in with her.
At the minute i have kids around 50% of the time and seem to spending the same money i was per week + giving the £450.00 as normal.
I have 2 boys aged 8 and 5 and will do everything in my power to give them best life possible but dont want to pay extra money that may not be going towards the kids.
When we split i also agreed to take over a large loan which we had (still around 10k) which i pay off monthly also.
This again was to make things a little easier to give kids best chance and let ex afford a decent chance to buy new home.
The problem is now that more and more i am being asked for further money for new clothes etc / school uniforms etc.
Although i will give everything i can i want to make sure that i am not being made a fool off especially when i now am informed that the relationship between my ex and her new partner has been going on for sometime. Both of us currently work full time with gross salary of around 40k each. Any advice or people with similar situations would be very helpful as i dont really want to approach a solicitor unless i really have too. Thanks.
Hi There,
The easiest way to find out what is expected of you to pay is via the csa Calculator, search for it on Google and have at pay slip at hand, put in the number of nights the boys stay with you and it will work out what you should pay.
Apparently the CSA will take into account depts gained whilst with the ex too, but there isn't anywhere to work this out on the calculator, it will give you a good starting point though.
Darren
Hi Darren, thank you for your reply. I just noticed you say
"Apparently the CSA will take into account depts gained whilst with the ex too"
I have a joint debt with the ex that I am now paying in full for and also paying the equivalent CSA payment by mutual agreement. I know you said that you can't work this out on the calculator but is there any information on how to work out this deduction based on the amount of debt I pay out every month?
Many thanks in advance 🙂
Hi There,
I don't i'm afraid, I only know from seeing others on here who have managed to have reductions due to jointly aquired debt.
May be worth contacting the CSA to ask how it is worked out.
Darren
Excellent, thanks Darren, i'll ask them.
hopefully maybe someone else may read this and may give some details on amount of loan, monthly repayment and deduction received and I can work it out in relation to mine?
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.