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I pay child maintinence for my 3 year old, it has just today been lowered because of the arrival of my second child but only by £19
I have no problems with actually paying maintinence, however I have a couple of points
1. I make a close to three hour journey every other weekend, which cost around £50 each time, to see my daughter. With my son being born I just can't afford that, and I read that they can reduce the amount I pay, if I have travel costs, is this true/ will it be likely mine will be reduced if I appeal?
2. I never receive a weekend bag, I only ever have her in the clothes her mother sends her in which is the same three tops and a couple of jeans leggings, meaning I buy her her clothes when she's with me . Again I have no problem with buying her stuff, but if I'm forking a lot of money out for her and I don't have any evidence she actually has any clothes, only expensive shoes that she doesn't need like wellies in summer, and on her profile she has expensive jewellery/ presents to herself. I'm just not happy with the constant claim that she needs extra money from me which I will give if my daughter needs it but there's no evidence of my daughter actually getting anything. Is there anything I can do or do I just have to put up with it?
Don't get me wrong I don't want to give up seeing my daughter but the way it's going I might have to because I can't afford the maintinence plus the travel plus with the baby its even harder
Any advice please
hi and welcome
You are in the same dilemna that a lot of dads face, so we know how you want to see your daughter.
You are correct that they can reduce your maintnenance due to travel costs - under the CSA scheme, you are expected to pay the first £15 per week, and then anything over that is deducted from your pay for the calculations - this means that unfortunately, on the figures you have given, the reduction in maintenance is only likely to be around £7 per month, which doesn't even begin to go towards the cost of travel I'm afraid.
With regards to the clothes, again this isn't uncommon - my best suggestion is that if you buy her new clothes, you keep them until you see her again, and send her back in the same (washed) clothes she came in so at least you aren't buying them each time.
Hi There,
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I agree with actd, with regards to the clothes, it isn't un common and my ex would do the same, my son would come in the clothes he was wearing and that was it, so I had to go and buy him things to wear whilst he was with me, I even had to but shoes as she would send him in old ill fitting worn out ones. There isn't much you can do I'm afraid, other than what's been said change into your clothes and then back into the ones that were worn when you take her home.
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