Thanks for joining us on the forum – glad to have you here. You are welcome to post 24/7 but please note that whilst we have forum moderators we will only be moderating the forum during office hours. If though you need urgent crisis help, please contact Samaritans on 116 123.
Spurgeons and Dad.Info doesn’t investigate reports of abuse or neglect. But below, you can find advice on who to contact if you have concerns about a child or young person.
Reporting a concern
It can be difficult to know what to do if you think a child is at risk. It’s important to remember that if you’ve spotted things that don’t seem right, others will have too. Speaking up can make sure that child gets help as soon as possible.
The sooner you contact your local children’s social care duty team, the quicker they can act. They’re available 24 hours a day, and can make an anonymous report if that feels safer. If a child is in immediate danger, please call the police straight away by dialling 999.
Report child abuse or neglect to your local council
Use these links to get in touch with your local council:
Hi,
I need some advice. My son lives with his mum and comes every other weekend. We have a private arrangement when it comes to maintenance and I have always paid what is owed.
My son is struggling a bit at school and we have both discussed the idea of him coming to stay with me for his last year of his GCSEs, full time. And he will see his mum every other weekend. Effectively a complete reversal of the situation as is.
In my mind, I will not continue to pay her child support as I will be the full time carer, as she was previously.
I’m also inclined, no matter how petty, to ask her for the child maintenance. Or the respective amount based on her earnings.
If he lives with me full time, and see her every other weekend, then she should pay? Just like I had to, or is that not how it works?
hi,
you can discuss this with mother and see if she will agree to you stopping the maintenance while child lives with you. you could ask can she contribute. better to keep CMS out of this.