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Hi,
I need some advice. My son lives with his mum and comes every other weekend. We have a private arrangement when it comes to maintenance and I have always paid what is owed.
My son is struggling a bit at school and we have both discussed the idea of him coming to stay with me for his last year of his GCSEs, full time. And he will see his mum every other weekend. Effectively a complete reversal of the situation as is.
In my mind, I will not continue to pay her child support as I will be the full time carer, as she was previously.
I’m also inclined, no matter how petty, to ask her for the child maintenance. Or the respective amount based on her earnings.
If he lives with me full time, and see her every other weekend, then she should pay? Just like I had to, or is that not how it works?
hi,
you can discuss this with mother and see if she will agree to you stopping the maintenance while child lives with you. you could ask can she contribute. better to keep CMS out of this.
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