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Hi all
Had my review come through last month and it had gone up £40 a month so I looked at my P60 that they had worked it out from and it seems like they have not took my pension into consideration which I know they have to do, anyway I have messaged them and got the reply up to 12 weeks so not a problem with what is going on.
Fast forward to this week and had a lovely phone call from the ex accusing me of being in arrears which I do not know how when I have stuck to paying each month the amount I am supposed to pay, anyway my new payment plan states the new amount starts 1st June so I told her that I will be paying in line with the payment plan so I paid her on the normal date we had agreed years ago which was middle of the month and now I have decided to bring it forward to the date specified so really she has gained but oh no she wants it on a certain date that is on her paperwork as it is different to mine apparently yet she would not send me any proof then I told her I have asked for a recalculation because of the pension thing and that was it, saying that I do not want to pay the full amount for my son etc etc but I told her they have to take pension into consideration so I really enjoyed that phone call.
Am I being unreasonable asking for a calculation? Also is it unreasonable to start going by their payment plan they sent me?
I am absolutely fine with paying for my son as he is my responsibility, never had an issue at all but I am concerned that she will try and make matters worse in regards to CMS
hi,
the main reason why we go through CMS is so we get away from crappy arguments with the ex about money. if your registered with the CMS, then you go by their calculations and their payment plan. Don't have any conversations with your ex about it.
At first mate it was about her accusing me of being in arrears then unfortunately I opened my mouth but I am expecting some more backlash so I will ignore it and continue with what I am doing, just so frustrating because if there was arrears then child maintenance would be telling me that. I opened the case up myself and she was adamant she was going to put me on collect and pay just so I get charged that horrendous amount but it backfired as I was absolutely willing to pay for my lad
hi,
the main reason why we go through CMS is so we get away from crappy arguments with the ex about money. if your registered with the CMS, then you go by their calculations and their payment plan. Don't have any conversations with your ex about it.
Amen
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