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Hi,
I have two boys with my ex. We have them week on/week off but I pay an agreed amount of maintenance each month. This was agreed as part of our finances with a solicitor. My oldest boy is now 19 and just leaving college now. My take on this is to reduce the amount I pay in line with what the maintenance calculator says I should pay for my younger son, who is now 17. This will reduce her payments by approx £200 a month. I can't see her being impressed by this but I think it's fair. I was going to give her notice before I change the amount. Any thoughts on if this is the right course of action? Any comments will be greatly appreciated.
Hi,
With your finance agreement for maintenance, do you have to pay fixed amount and is there an age limit?
@bill337 hi, the amount is fixed. Age limit wasn't stipulated and I assumed this was in line with CMS figures. Paying maintenance for a son who will be going into employment seems non-sensical to me I guess.
Yes, its a good idea to tell her first as gauge the reaction. You don't have to pay for your son if he's finished college and starting work. You might have been paying more than the minimum in which case, you should probably expect to pay more that the minimum for your younger son
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