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Hi guys,
So one of my ex's and to be honest i use that term lightly as at the time was a fling.
So she had a child i didnt know about untill a year after she was born. I am not on the childs birth certificate and each time i have spoken to her (the mother) she refuses a dna and moves address when confronted about the subject.
The csa just keep telling me i cant request a dna through then because its too late to do that. They have a court order takin 200 a month direct from wage.
Bummer i know!
How ever the mother of the child is getting married. Shes changed the childs last name to her new fellows and is given him parental rights.
Now my question is does this effect the csa payments. As to be honest i am not sure that this child is actually mine and the csa are pretty much taken me for a mug.
She has three children to three men. Claiming off all of them.
This cant be legal nor right considering shes the one thats stopping me from being involed i have three children with my partner and with this 200 coming off my wage its making living at home really tight on the money front. Because of this throughout the month i generally go about a week with out eating due to payin bills putting food on the table for my and my partners kids. I will admit i am struggling badly and could really do with some good advice on this.
But surley if shes given him parental rights refuses me access. Not on the birth certificate and she keeps dodging a dna their has to be something to stop this.
She is literally running me into financial dispare i have tried talking to the csa about it and they dont want to know they wont even take into consideration i have three children living with is.
Im pretty much at me whitts end n its drivin me anxiety and depression threw the roof.
Thanks for the advice.
Hi there
If the mother wont consent you can apply to the Courts for a Declaration of Parentage. This would be asking the courts to order a DNA test be undertaken. To apply for a Declaration of Parentage you would need to complete a form C63 which can be obtained from www.justice.gov.uk . There is a fee for this application which you will need to check with the Courts.
Here’s some further information about this
https://www.gov.uk/dna-testing-parentage-disagreements
All the best
Quick question, have you always disputed you’re the child’s father from the first communication with the CSA? If so, I would advise that you make an official complaint about their refusal and go and see your MPand ask for their help in dealing with this.
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