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I’m paying maintenance to my ex wife for my boy. I have another ex partner whom I had 2 kids with. My ex partner Wants me to pay maintenance to her as well for my 2 kids. My question is if I call the child maintenance and explain the situation will my ex wife find out I have 2 more kids from another partner or is it kept confidential? I don’t want my ex wife to find out anything as we parted very badly when we divorced.
I would have a word with child maintenance options. Ultimately, your ex can open a case with CMS, which means you'd have no choice. There are two issues here. First is spousal maintenance, and if that hasn't been ordered on the divorce, then she has no basis to ask for this, unless there was information that wasn't disclosed about your finances in the first instance.
With regards to child maintenance, having other children will mean that your maintenance to your ex would be reduced. I would imagine that you could ask CMS to disregard those children on the basis that you'd be paying more than you are required to do, but as I said, it's worth speaking to them to ask if you can keep that information off the case.
However, as you are now divorced, and it really is none of your ex's business, what would be the worst that would happen if she were to find out that you have other children, and are all four children not likely to meet each other at some point?
Am not 100% sure, but when they reduce maintenance because you have overnight care of kids, they mention the shared care in their letters. I wouldn't worry about it. your ex may find out from your child or your other partners child. I don't think it's something you should try to hide.
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