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Hi
I currently have 36/64 care and I am waiting for a financial settlement. I did pay for all the rent, utilities, car lease, internet, broadband for my wife but no have stopped it since I have got the decree absolut and was not saving any money. We have no assets. I buy everything for the children, school clothes, shoes, bags, bottles, lunch bags etc. As a matter of fact my spiteful ex does not send anything back, so they have a couple of pairs of shoes eventually when everything comes back and excess clothes. I have all the receipts. Questions I have are =
1. I have asked for another day in the week as my work situation has changed and I can pick up and drop off kids much easier, so it will be 50/50. What is the likelihood of the CAO being changed if it was agreed upon only 3 months ago. My situation will change in September this year
2. If i start paying child maintenance , as I think my wife will disagree to another day, then when and if I do get 50/50 does it stop ?
Hi,
It seems like court don't like another application so recently. Probably better to wait for a year to pass. They might not be interested in varying the order for just 1 extra day.
If you get 50/50 then in theory you should stop paying maintenance as soon as the 50/50 overnights start.
@bill337, thanks for that.
I am asking for 1 day a week but that amounts to 2 in a fortnight so 50/50. At present I get 5/14 days
I work for the NHS and as you know during COVID we were under pressure and couldn't take much time off.
I have got a promotion and my timings are more flexible, so do you think proposing that will work? I miss them a lot, she says horrible things about me and I worry about this
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