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Hi all. I'm new on here, so first of all, hi and happy new year!
I'm hoping someone can answer me a question.
I have 2 children with my ex, aged 15 and 14. I've always paid the right amount to her at the right time. I'll try and keep this short!
A few years ago, CSI called me to enquire about a "gap" in my payments record of 2 years before csa became involved, when I used to pay the mother cash. Well, she denied this, and csa wouldn't believe me or my cash point records so I had to pay the 2 years again. Nice! As you can imagine our relationship broke down as a result. So I haven't seen my autistic son for 3 years now as he is joined to his mother by the hip. I see my daughter regularly and communicate with her directly. So my ex has destroyed our unit relationship, and in effect stolen from her children, as I cannot afford to pay her and continue putting money away for the kids in their post office accounts. But she has always been driven by greed, I could go on!
As a result of the above, I want to finish paying csa as soon as possible. Of course I can carry on helping the kids, but not via her greedy lying thieving mitts.
My daughter is straightforward. However, how long do I have to pay csa for my son? He goes to special school, so I very much doubt he will go to further education. So I think his child allowance will cease at 16, and therefore csa will too. Have I got this right?
Many thanks for you help, Ian.
Hi there
If the CSA werent involved at the time she alleged the gap in payments, they wouldn't have been able to demand payment, so I don't understand how they could have pursued you for it.
I'm sorry you don't see your son, it would benefit him to have both parents involved in his life. At least you see your daughter and can communicate with her directly.
usually, once your child leaves full time education, the entitlement to child maintenance stops, if the mother continues to claim child benefit though, you may find it difficult to convince the CSA that your payments should stop.
Also I'm not sure what the criteria is for claiming child child benefit if the child is disabled, it might be extended for children with special needs.
It might be a good idea to speak to the CAB about this, they will be able to give you advice about your sons situation.
Best of luck
Definitely speak to the CAB - I think it used to be the case that if a child was disabled, then a court could decide the maintenance (and it could continue for as long as the court deemed necessary) and the CSA wouldn't override those cases. I'm not sure if it's still the case, so you definitely need to check it out.
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