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My son is 6 and i have always paid Child maintenance for him as well as giving my ex money for things such as new cooker, new flooring, new washing machine, paying her vet bills for her and paying extra things for the child such as swimming, football ect. When i moved in with my current partner who is a stay at home mother with her own young boy i stopped paying for all my ex's new stuff but carried on paying double what she was entitled too in child maintenance, my ex believes i should still be paying her double and has repeatedly gone to CSA despite them telling her she is in fact getting everything she is entitled too. Now she has stopped me from seeing my son because she believes the less time i see him the more money Child maintenance i have too pay.
i know that the more you see your child the less you pay but surely she cant just stop me from seeing my son and then get more money?
does anyone know if this is true?
Morally she should not be able to stop your son spending time with you, but in reality, unless you have a court order in place, she can!
I would write her an email or letter to ask her to immediately reinstate contact, that she is getting more than CMS say she is entitled to, and reducing his time with you will not make them increase their calculations.
I would also say that if she will not reinstate contact that it might be better for the both of you to attend mediation.
She's being very silly but if you reduced what you pay / contribute to solely because of your new partner, she's probably reading the message the wrong way.
If she won't play ball, you have to attempt mediation before court anyway.
Keep all communication written so you have evidence of her reasons if it gets that far.
I agree with the above, and I would also consider paying just what you are obliged to pay as long as your son doesn't suffer - you can use the money you have saved to buy him clothes directly (though again, you aren't required to pay this, as the child maintenance covers this), possibly taking him out yourself to do this as a way to get more time.
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