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Hi people,
I have a quandary and want to know where I stand. I live in Guernsey, the channel islands but location shouldn't matter.
I have been paying maintenance for my daughter for the past 13 years at £300 pm with the premise I pay it until she is outside full-time education i.e. no longer a student.
She is 19 now and at university, training to be a nurse, locally on the island, which she has been doing for 1 year in a 3 year course,
She has been given a bursary from our local government for her 3 year course.
My ex wife, who I usually get on with is now demanding board of about £200 per month which I'm fuming about.
It seems to me as this is double standards whereby she is classing her as a "Student" to me but "Working" for her.
Do you think this is right?
I think personally the bursary should be paying the rent/lodgings and my daughter is happy to do this. To be fair I don't mind paying the £300 into her account while she is still at Uni.
Just want to get your thoughts on this.
Thanks for your time
Shaun
You could simply stop paying and let her go through the CMS - since she is at university, the CMS won't open a case as you aren't liable for maintenance once she's at Uni. That way, you can decide what if anything, you pay to your ex, or you could pay it to your daughter directly.
Thanks for your reply.
It's unfortunately a court order and won't stop until the she is no longer a student. Her job title as such is still student.
Saying that, I have finally started getting through to my ex wife that she cannot get money off me and money off my daughter for maintenance/board or whatever you want to call it.
I didn't expect her to act so quickly so my post may be moot soon.
Regards
Shaun
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