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My CMS calculation has changed now I have had to take a new job and my salary has decreased. I am entitled to pay a smaller amount than I have been for my two children. I also already pay and will continue to pay half of school trips, classes etc. My ex is now blackmailing me saying that if I reduce my payment she will have to move to another town as she can't afford to live here, even though the town she proposes moving to is no cheaper than where she lives currently. She has also made alot of expensive purchases since the divorce and is clearly doing well for herself. We only had this conversation last week and she says she is already talking to estate agents. The children are happy and settled in school here, Any advice on what I can do about this?
Hi there
I'm sorry to hear this....but there's not a lot you can do in the short term to prevent her from moving, apart from applying to court for a Prohibited Steps Order to try and stop her. If you have any proof that she is doing this as a matter of blackmail that would go in your favour.
Thank you for your advice, she is now being difficult with access too so I think a Prohibited Steps Order would be worth looking into.
If she is also being difficult with contact, I would consider applying for a Child Arrangements Order and Prohibited Steps Order so that you can get the children's contact formalised too. Try to keep communication to a written format so that you have evidence if you need to go to court.
Attempting mediation is mandatory before you can make a court application unless you believe she may leave very quickly, then you could be exempt and ask for an urgent hearing.
Try National Family Mediation to find your closest mediator.
Best wishes
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