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Hi all not sure if any one can advise me on this , but i have payed child maintenance since my son was 13 and he is now 19 , all has been fine but i contacted them as a whisper came to me and said he not in college so i call child maintenance even thought i recieved a schedule on the 9.3.2017 they informed me that he finished college in october 2016 .
I asked why i was not informed as i had been paying and have done even this month , i pay direct pay can i ask do you think they will have to get the overpayment back .
thanks for any advise you can offer
HI There,
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I would have thought that you have a case for claiming the money back, and the fact that they sent you a new schedule after he had finished education I think that would make your case stronger, I don't know how much help CSA/CMS would be though and you may have to use small claims court.
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GTTS
Hi thanks for your reply they have confirmed when you pay direct pay it take around 10 months to close the case and this is when i would receive a letter telling me to stop paying also the review telling me what to pay till 2018 is a standard letter , which i find appalling as now there is an big over payment . So going to court to get this back is my only option just not sure if its worth it if she does not comply as she enjoys delaying things to cost me money like with the divorce .
Hi There,
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If you go through small claims she doesn't have to attend, the judge would make a decision and if she then refuses to pay you can hand it to debt collection agencies who will collect the money for you, there isn't a great deal of cost to do this as far as I know as the debt collection agencies add there fees onto what she owes.
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All I would say is as we say a lot, choose your battles, if you want to have a relationship with your son, then going all out to claim the money back may not be the best option as she will cloud his judgement over you becuase of it.
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GTTS
Hi thanks for your reply , well this is why i never chased the money for the divorce when he was 13 my son is now 19 and has made it clear i am dead to him with cuts me up but i am grateful for what you said and you right about what battles to choose . i will have a look at the small claims court and discuss this with my wife and thanks again
rob
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