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My daughter lives with her mum. She’s not working or in education due to mental health. I’ve been paying maintenance but planned to stop when my daughter turns 18 in a couple of months time. As it stands, generally, she’s not been in education since 16 so theoretically I could have stopped paying then, but have continued. I get the whole 16 or 20yo thing based on education, but my daughter is not able to work or attend college for example due to mental health difficulties, so where do I stand on stopping payments when she turns 18 soon? Legally I could have stopped long ago, but her personal situation makes things that much more difficult to figure out. I’ve told my ex that I plan to stop paying her when our daughter turns 18 and then pay some money (maybe not as much as child maintenance) directly to my daughter instead to help her out, basically just cutting her mum out of the situation, the ex, funnily, isn’t happy with that arrangement. What should I do? I could be a d**k and not pay anything at all, but that’s not me, need advice please. Thanks in advance.
hi,
yes you could stop paying when child turns 18. but mother will likely go to CMS. if child benefit is still active, they will tell you to keep paying.
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