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Hi,
My son was living with his mother (since birth) up until January and due to Tusla getting involved he now lives with her mother. This happened unbeknown to me and I don't know what this happened (I found out a month after this was decided amongst themselves)
I do not trust that the maintenance I am paying to her is getting through to her mother? I do not have a relationship with either as its a very sour situation.
I really want to pay the maintenance to the grandmother. Does anyone have any suggestions without having her bank account and I don't want to pay cash - how to go about making this happen?
Cheers
I have no experience of TUSLA, but I would contact them and see what their advice is - you aren't trying to get out of paying maintenance, just trying to make sure it gets through to the right person.
I guess it depends on whether there is an order stating what maintenance you should pay. If its voluntary then you can do what you like I should think. Can you write to her parents? Have you seen your son or tried to see him?
Hi,
are you paying through child maintenance service? if so you could contact them and report change that child is now in primary care of grand parent.
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