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My kids moved in with me 3months ago the mother rung and cancelled the child benefits in her name and told me to claim them but on Friday the benefits office rung and said she was refusing to give it to me I spoke with her and she said she can claim it even if the kids lived with me and she hasn't to give me any money at all but if I move them back to her I 've to pay her maintenance again even when they lived with her I had the kids half of the week and now they live with me she 'll only take the kids 1 evening and 1 nite a week any advice
Hi,
do you have a court order in place? how old are your kids? this sounds like a situation where a court order would settle this dispute.
Hi Bill
I don't have a court order up until now we have been getting along with no problems. The kids are 6 and 13
I have all the messages from her telling me to take the kids full time and she would give me the benefits and she that she was refusing me maintenance because I was getting the benefits I said I would go to court but she has a solicitor and I won't will because the kids lived with her for so long her partner isn't aloud around my kids or his own I think it was all a game to spent the lockdown with him do u think with them messages I would have a good chance
my kids live with their mum. shes getting child benefit, and all sorts of other benefits. but i still have to pay child maintenance. i have to pay maintenance until the kids finish college A-levels. by then they will be 18-20 years old. so your ex should be paying maintenance to you. i have a feeling if you ring the child maintenance service to open a claim, they will see that your ex is getting child benefit, so they will not expect her to pay maintenance.
you can speak to them. if they say you have to take legal route, then there is option to apply to court for financial remedy/provision:
you would need to attend mediation before applying. can sit mediation meeting by yourself, and let mediator decide if they want to invite your ex to mediation or not.
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