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Hi guys,
So many weeks ago I said about my ex taking me to the CMS out of the blue even tho never missed a weekly payment of £60 per week for my 5 year old boy(52 nights a year).
I finally found out from her she opened a case only to check my income and saw im paying right amount and closed it straight away that seems so cheeky because she wants to use the CMS only as a income checker but continue to have a private arrangement in place thats "flexible and suits her at the same time
Does that seen a bit off to you it says case now closed her side and it shows my name but I've had no letters or confirmation from CMS my side so I guess I treat it like a open case until I get that!,we had a small argument over it and all she said was "well you didn't tell me your income"
Dont pay her for a week haha. Go and have a nice steak dinner and tell her to re-open case and you are doing so for the inconvenience she caused you 😛
Was so angry I give her lifts and stuff and extras like clothing for my lad and does that behind my back then was really apologetic and in tears when I screamed I will pay monthly not weekly anymore then
Single mothers are a disaster why are they so tiring to deal with ha
Are you overpaying according to the CMS calculator? If so, you have the option to open a case yourself - costs £20 one off fee. That way you have control of when it's closed, and more to the point, she can't then open a case against you. It's up to you then whether you pay more, or provide anything other than the calculated payment.
@actd
Hi mate CMS is pretty much same £59 pw but the issue is my ex showed me evidence case closed showing my name but I havnt got any letters or anything on online portal.
Reference numbers are different
hopefully you can keep it as private arrangement. with CMS they will make you pay more if you get pay rise/better paying job, get bonuses or do over-time.
@bill337
Yes well I think I have the power now because its come back at the exact amount as I was paying every week for last 5 years and I did say if she ever got the CMS involved again I would simply just pay on 1st of every month and no more lifts or other extras
I know she wants it weekly and would hate to wait a month because she's poor at budget and some months are 5 weeks long
Women are so vindictive sometimes.
I mean you pay for extras, lifts here and there, pay for extra clothing on top of the maintenance you pay her, you see your child and are a good dad what more does she want like?
Greed that is, and the CMS is so biased against the dad its unreal! I'm in the mix with them at the moment they are so hard to deal with, there isn't a proper management structure with them I'm surprised the company functions lol
I am so happy that you managed to step away from the cms mate and have a private agreement in place.
What some people forgot is the fact ok sometimes with private agreement you under pay but what people forget is sometimes people have more outgoings then others or are in debt etc. Cms don't care about that so it's a nightmare
Try your hardest to keep it in private agreement, I wish the women I'm involved with would goto private, the stress and anxiety it's causing its crazy, because they are so poorly organised you don't know what's around the corner with the cms or what they will say next
I guess it's a tricky one. A lot of non-resident parents with private arrangements will often under pay and this can frequently lead to the resident parent wanting to check the correct amount is being paid.
In the grand scheme of things, you're paying the correct amount, she knows this now & you have contact.
Probably better to be the bigger person and move forward. These issues can often escalate and then it impacts on the child's contact with the non-resident parent.
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