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Really sorry your having to go through this. In future dont side with your ex side with your ex. Your never going to win trying to please her who in fact has instilled loyalty conflicts with your children and has a campaign of denigration against you. Its good you are venting on here.
My advice is to be supportive of your children but never stay quiet about the bile you here from them and put them right. If you dont then the mnipulation wins. Your kids will understand if you allow them critically think for themselves and empower them. Love them support them and when they are adults you will have them.
If she cant cope thats her problem, they love playing the victim role. made your bed lie in it.
I am going through same procedure My ex lied to CMS she hadnt been recieving maintenance for some months which meant i was getting repeat letters calls etc. The CMS also tried to insight that i have arrears owing from CSA which was rubbish. This alarmed me to then fight as they contact my work place for a deductions order. I complained several times, offered so much evidence to claim i had been paying that eventually they removed DEO and will be reviewing my case. i like you have more contact than scheduled in order which she lies about when i want to have my case recalculated. I will follow up with this too as my order is over 12 months old.
Well since we were in court I have seen my son one weekend. On the Sunday evening he asked if he could stay. I asked my ex who of course said now. I quoted her own words to her that we need to let our son have a voice and that he has voiced he wants to stay so I'm going to let him......haven't seen him since.
She also told me she was taking them out of the country on holiday this coming Friday. Turns out they left this morning.
I am supposed to see him on Wednesday's and she has also taken all 3 of my children out of school for the last 3 days of term. Didn't say a word to me about it and refused to give me any details about the holiday. Said her mum is down as emergency contact so I don't need to know.
She has also coerced my son into writing me a letter saying he doesn't want to see me whilst court is going on. He even used phrases my ex uses with me all the time in emails and texts.
Has anyone ever experienced this level of coercion?
Unfortunately, this isn't uncommon. As you've tried mediation, then you are going to have to consider court to get the level of contact that is reasonable, and also that she can't go off on holiday with no notice whatsoever.
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