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🙁 Hi I've just joined to help my Son he has just fallen pray to a girlfriend who said she was on the pill and once pregnent said wouldn't have the baby but after several weeks of messing us all about she has declaired she is to keep the baby and is moving back to her parents who encouraged her to move in with us in the first place. Sadly my Son can't have a child because he had underage relationsions 7years ago when he was 17. His girlfriend at the time was under social services and my son went to prison even though her and her parents wanted nothing done. So my son is on the register for that silly mistake and his life has been in tatters since. He's labelled with a horrible name for a consentual act which many do but social services did there worst and I also lost me my job as a teaching assistant even though my son lived with his father a police officer! I took my school to tribunal and won but can't have my career back and my son's life is over bless him. Sad as he lost his sister to cancer the year before and now this. So as you see he can't have this baby. Know many will say tough but they are the judgement type which know nothing of my son but those who know him are digusted by the system. The girl say now she wants to break ties and won't add him to birth certificate. But although my son can't have this baby he wants to help he's on job seekers as no one wants to employ as too many judgemental people out there. How can he go about this? And what are these changes how much will he have to pay?
Hi Tigerlily
As far as I recall, if he is on JSA, then he will pay the flat rate which is £7 per week under the new system (it might be deducted directly from his allowance) - it's probably worth him contacting the CMS himself to see about opening a case.
As for his lack of contact, whatever his past, he is still the father to a baby so it may be worth him having a word with the CCLC (www.cclc.org.uk) for some free legal advice - he might also be entitled to free legal aid as he's under 18, but I'm not certain about that. Even with his past record as you say it is, he might possibly get indirect contact so his baby will hopefully know he exists.
What self employed jobs are available to reduce my csa payments.. Please anyone?
The job doesn't have any relevance - the maintenance is based on your income and the number of children you have. The only reductions are for certain expenses in keeping in touch, and pension contributions.
Hi guys what are currnet standings in regards to marriage and the changes that would make to my csa payments ?
thanks
Hi guys what are currnet standings in regards to marriage and the changes that would make to my csa payments ?
thanks
Not sure what you mean by that.
What specifically are you trying to find out?
Are you currently paying maintenance via CSA/CMS?
Who is getting married? The payer or the recipient?
Please provide a bit more info about your specific circumstances and someone may be able to help.
Hi all, I am new to this but could do with some help. It's really difficult finding the best info. Basically I have been split with my ex for a few years and I pay her an amount agreed by the CSA. I have my son exactly half the time, Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday and at least every other Sunday. My new partner even picks him up from school on a Tuesday and a Thursday but I still have to pay her this money even though care is exactly 50/50,is that right? I am only asking because I am hearing the law has changed and maybe I shouldn't have to and in fact I should be entitled to half of her child benefit money (which I am not interested in). If I do have to still pay, which does seem unfair, what should this money cover. I still end up buying school uniform, paying for school trips, football club etc. She now wants me to pay for an after school club because I am away on business at the end of the money and my partner wont be able to pick him up, surely the money I pay should cover this or am I being naive?
If the care is 50/50 and you can prove it, best if it is in a court order, then you are not liable to pay CM to your former partner.
Be aware though that if there is no court order your former partner may riggle and reduce the time your child has with you to keep the CM. Think about this as it could make life difficult for you and your child.
Regards,
Dave
Hi Dave, thanks for your reply. This is what I'd heard but I just cant find anything on "official government sites" that give and definitive information. I now this sounds really stupid but how do I go about doing this. I am nervous in stopping the money I give to her because I don't seem to be able to get anyone in an official capacity to confirm this.
Try this crossie....also have a look at the stickies at the top.
Regards,
Dave
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This thread may also be helpful....
http://www.dad.info/forum/child-maintenance/36289-shared-custody-50-50
Dave
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