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Hi all
Sorry if this rambles a little
I managed to get a supercesion agreed as I have my children 3 nights a week on average. Ex asked for a mandatory reconsideration and got the decision overturned. My assessment year started in April 2019 and in the 12 months I can prove I have 158 nights however as I asked for the supercession in June they now count June-June and day I have 152 because I had the May school holiday and ex has October but my May now doesn’t get included in the June-June calculation of nights....Hope that makes sense
Anyway I have managed to persuade them to do a mandatory reconsideration for me back to April
The evidence they used to count June-June is a calendar of dates my ex sent me and they should use the same calendars for April-April. Surely if they’ve used the calendars to say no to June-June then they have to use the same info to say yes to April-April.
I can’t understand why they can change the goalposts for the overnights and make this different to the assessment period?
Just hope logic prevails this time as they’ve already overturned their own decison once
hi Harry,
I am happy for you. i just get 1 night a week on average. and if i wanted more, then more court hearings lol.
Another update to my continuing saga with the CMS
Just sent off my tribunal appeal as they used the shared parenting calendar to support my ex’s mandatory reconsideration but then didn’t use it to support mine. I get the feeling they just passed the buck to the tribunal.
Not sure whether the Tribunal will be helpful but what choice do
I have? It’s not about the money it’s about making a stand against the ex so she doesn’t feel that she can get away with taking advantage of the poor systems for ever and a day!
Bill, hang in there and work for what you want to achieve. Families need father’s as they say and very true it is too.
It's been years since I went to a tribunal, but mine was certainly helpful as they are real people considering the facts, and not just following rules and ticking boxes, so hopefully you'll get a fair outcome.
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