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Hi all.
I'm at my whits end..!!
I have paid CSA for my children for the past 12 years in the form of an AOE.. My son is now 24 but I had a bad experience with CSA payments when he became a non qualifying dependant back in 2008, he was at college (or so I was told) learning how to be a plumber,and as this was full time education, I was obligated to continue having CSA payments deducted from my wage.. HOWEVER.. I found out 18 months later that he had actually been on an apprenticeship at the college ando he didn't even complete the course.. he lasted 4 months and then dropped out of the course and started full time employment as a carpet fitter.. I contacted the CSA at that point to discuss how I go about getting a refund of the overpayments.. only to be told after much wrangling that "Unfortunately we cannot refund the payments as they have already been paid to your ex wife" and therefore I basically lost the best part of £2000.. Thanks for nothing CSA..!!
Fast forward to June 2015.. My daughter is coming up to 18 and I want to know what is happening with my payments for her.. I heard via social media that she wants to go to Uni so I immediately contact the CSA to see where I stand.. and I am reliably "hmm hmm" informed that I need to call back in September for confirmation of her intentions as my ex wife has stated to CB that my daughter wants to go to Uni.. I contacted CSA on 3/9/15 and was told that she was going to Uni but I had to call back again on 7th to get confirmation. Once again I make the call.. and to my relief I get the confirmation I have been waiting for "my final payment day would be the 7th September" We calculate your final payment and write to both you and your employer with the details.. At last.. Elation..!! I am not one to say away from my responsibility as a parent and myself and my now 2nd wife (who I have to say has been my rock for the past 12 years) have stepped up to the plate and provided for my 2 children even though we have neither seen nor heard from either of them in all that time.. We have gone the whole 9yrds Court.. CAFCASS.. but still had no contact.. and at last we can concentrate on living our own lives without this weight on our shoulders... OR SO WE THOUGHT..!! I have just contacted CSA again this morning because I still haven't received my confirmation letter from them.. only to be told now that "We haven't had confirmation that your daughter has gone to Uni, your ex partner is still claiming CB so your payments are still ongoing" [censored]..!! [censored] is going on at the CSA.? This is going to come back round and bite me in the [censored] YET AGAIN is how I'm feeling right now.. how the [censored] am I going to tell my wife this devastating news.. I feel like I should just get a 6ft piece of rope or a razor blade and have done with it all..!! 12 years on and my ex is still casting a dark cloud over us.. I just want us to be able to move on with our lives..!!
Can someone please help.. I don't know how much more of this I can take..!! How do I go about finding out what is the actual truth as to what is going on.. I just know I'm going to get screwed over again by the CSA.. there's no wonder some men throw themselves under buses or off tall buildings..!!
Any advice would be welcomed
Hi There,
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I know this must be difficult as you have no contact with your ex or children, if child benifit is still being paid then csa will continue to keep the case open.
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If your daughter has gone to uni and your ex has informed csa (and child benifit) that she hasn't then that would be a different matter
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As I understand it child benefit stops at the age of 16 unless they are in further education, you would need to try and find out what your daughter is doing if she isn't at uni, then you will be able to act.
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I know this doesn't really help matters much, other than to offer support.
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GTTS
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