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Hi
I'll try keep this short and to the point. Me and my ex split 2 years ago. We have one biological child and we took on my niece from 3 months which went to court and gr8 parental responsibility for although we were not allowed to adopt as Bradford council wouldn't allow a full adoption.
My biological daughter lives wirh me and cmo state my ex has to pay £7 a week even though she owns her own bbusiness and drives a 30k rangerover. I work full time on minimum wage but am also a retained firefighter so in total take home about 400 a week and cmo state I have to pay her 50 a week. (Obviously one child is worth more than the other)
Anyway my ex still gets paid a carers allowance from Bradford council for our step daughter. Should I actually be paying cmo for a child that's not mine. My ex lives with her new boyfriend . I will Give both my kids anything so that's not a problem. My issue is paying my ex when she gets money from the council and also her partner who have a very good income
Thanks
Hello Craig5059
All parents have a financial responsibility to support their children, however, as you have mentioned you were not able to adopt your niece, you do not have a legal responsibility to pay child maintenance for her. In the eyes of the law, it would be down to your niece’s parents to provide child maintenance to your ex-partner.
For a more personalised response, you may wish to contact Child Maintenance Options directly at http://www.cmoptions.org.
The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a website, 'Sorting out Separation'. It aims to make it much easier for separating and separated parents (and childless couples) to find the support they need, when and where they need it, and encourages them to collaborate on a range of issues. The link is https://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk/.
Regards
William
Hi There,
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I'm not 100% certain but I don't think that you should need to pay towards the child that isn't yours as you only have PR this doesn't fall in to what is required a step father can gain PR but wouldn't have to pay CMO, again I may be wrong and happy to be corrected, I would look much further into this as it doesn't seem right to me.
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When it comes to the amount you pay this is based solely on your income your ex may be making her income look less than it is to be able to pay such a low amount, where as your income is being shown through the tax that you pay.
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GTTS
GTTS is correct, you aren't liable at all for your stepdaughter - that would only happen if you had legally adopted her.
GTTS is correct, you aren't liable at all for your stepdaughter - that would only happen if you had legally adopted her.
GTTS is correct, you aren't liable at all for your stepdaughter - that would only happen if you had legally adopted her.
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