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Long story short...
14 years ago I was with a girl for 12 weeks and she did nothing but go on about having a kid. I left her because I didn’t want one with her, it was just not going anywhere and didn’t want to make a life with her. 1 year later she tells me I’ve got a kid with her and I’ve had to pay for it since. She lied and had stopped taking her pill also my wallet to get information to give csa so they could chase me up. DNA test done and it’s mine, I never see her don’t want to and never will.
Well now my cms has gone up and I can’t afford to live. My partner can’t wirk as our son (my step son) is disabled and she gets benefits for him we have 2 other children (step for me) and we are all going to be homeless because we can’t pay for rent, food, the little ones disability payments are no longer going on him because we need heating food etc... he is suffering because of this and it’s breaking my heart that they are all suffering because of her. I can’t pay the hp on my car, bills and I’m going in to debt.
Can I reduce my payments to her or else we are going to end up having nothing. The little one can’t cope now, let alone if we are homeless.
Hi there
This is so upsetting, it’s no consolation but there are many Dads that find themselves in the same dreadful situation, due to them moving cases over to the new system.
Are they allowing for the three children that live with you? Are they taking extra off for supposed arrears?
The best advice I can give is to initiate a formal appeal, ask them to look at it again, if they aren’t helpful, escalate it up,to a formal complaint and go and see your MP.
None of that helps you right now, I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful
Best of luck
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