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I'm not a dad (obviously!) but my partner's kids stay with us at weekends. His ex wife has been verbally abusive towards me, including in front of the kids, and I've done absolutely nothing to deserve it.
I have just bought a house in my sole name, he lives with me and pays lodging money to me, the kids stay here.
He needs to tell CMS of the address change.
Is there any way the CMS can keep the address private from her?
He's happy to pay CMS and give a brief location (estate and town), but I don't want her kicking off outside my front door and screaming at me like she does. I'd rather the expense of an injunction be saved for spending on the kids.
I dont think these details get passed over. Mainly due to GDPR and data protection. But you would have to ask the CMS to confirm.
Oh Yoda, so wise you are! Thank you, just trying to save 45 minutes of his life on the phone waiting to speak to someone....
They probably wont know the answer anyway. Useless idiots
my ex refuses to tell me where shes staying. she asked CMS to keep her address and phone number confidential. so all cms gave me was her bank details.
I think you’ve received good advice here, but definitely I would tell them about the address change in writing and include the fact that he doesn’t wish his address to be given to the receiving parent, for the reasons you have stated.keep a copy and send the letter recorded delivery.
All the best
if, by some chance, she does find the address and kick off, call the police immediately, and video it from inside, or get something like a Ring doorbell camera
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