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Hello Everyone!
Am hoping for some help if possible? My son was born November 30th 2018. I have been denied contact with him by my ex for no reason but "I did not go to enough scans" accoryding to her. Its pathetic. She has not respoinded to any texts or emails and she refused to show for mediation. She did decide to claim for CSA though! I have sent the C1 form for parental responsibility and also the C100 for for contact order and am wondering what to expect? It is stupid that a mother can use her son as a weapon to hurt the dad. I was never nasty to her and we ended because she cheated on me!! I'd imagine alot of you, if not most have been through a similer situation and I am wondering if you would be happy to share thoughts/experiences of court etc..
Thanks
Dan
hi, i have been through something similar. not present at childs birth. not involved in naming baby, cut contact with me. all because of ex. what i suggest is dont expect your ex to behave in a rational way, and her behaviour is likely to get worse as the court process goes on.
you should be getting letter for court, to go for First Hearing Dispute Resolution appointment (FHDRA). this is where they will find out what the issues are. i would strongly recomend you get a barrister to represent you. be prepared for nasty, malicious allegations to be made about you. but try not to get fired up about it or take it seriously. you will see that it will be mostly petty and pathetic. court has process called fact finding hearing. this is lengthy and something you would want to avoid. my barrister got me off the hook for that.
as your child is around 6 months old now, don't expect to get lot of contact right now. when my child was about 3 months old, court gave me 30 mins contact per week. now babies 6 months old, I am getting 1 hour contact, but every 2 weeks.the plan is when child turns 1, then i will get to have the child spend few hours at home with me and other kids. i wanted this now, but not possible because of ex's obstruction and feeding arrangements. when shes 2, overnight contact hopefully.
Hi there
Have you at any point since your sons birth had contact?
The reasons she has given for no contact just wouldn’t stand up in court, unless she makes allegations of previous domestic abuse... hopefully this won’t happen, but it’s better to be prepared for it.
I would advise you to stop trying to contact her, she could too easily apply for a non molestation order, even for a few texts. If that were to happen, it would make your journey through court more difficult.
It’s a good idea, whilst waiting for the first hearing, if you enrolled in a parenting court locally, it will help your case if you can show that you are being proactive and taking your parental responsibilities seriously.
It’s also a good idea to prepare a brief two page position statement to take with you to the hearing, giving a bit more detail about the issues and what you would like the court to do.
It’s highly likely that if contact is ordered at some point, it will start in a contact centre, you will need to establish a bond with your child and this would be the starting point. Here’s a link to the contact centre website, where you’ll find details of centres in your area.
www.naccc.org.uk
It would also help if you attended a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area, where you’ll get direct advice and support from others in a similar situation. Here’s a link to their website, with details of meetings nationally, hopefully there will be one near you.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to ask... best of luck
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