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I got the phone call yesterday evening..........
CSA want me to give her more money as they WON'T take into account the £15,00.00 loan that i pay for both of us at £289.00 a month as it no longer has her name on it!! They won't take the car i gave her in to consideration either or her other debt of £1,200.00 which i also pay.
Hmmmm! I'm so angry at the moment that i can't talk to her about it. She was always a very devious person. The car never went into her name because she admitted she was selling it straight on as she needed the money and didn't want another owner going on the cars documents. Yep, what a berk!! She also worked out that the loan payments wouldn't be considered. I have also recently gone for early settlement of her debt at a reduced amount as had I saved enough money to do this. I pay for clothes aswell as school holidays etc.
I have them 2-3 times a week. My daughter (not bio-logical) is 14 and my son (biological) is 9 Xmas day. I love them both dearly. They stay every weekend from friday night to Sunday dinner time.
I believe I pay what is right, my ex was always like a dripping tap where money is concerned. I don't want to pay anymore than necessary, i don't want to see my kids go without, but i also don't want her wasting money i could be spending on them. I now officially hate her but don't know what to do next.
Please help.
Hi Ginger
It's not pleasant, and I can fully understand how you feel. The CSA work by fairly simple guidelines, and don't have the authority to stray much from them. However, you can go for a variation - this costs you nothing except some time and effort. One of the reasons you can apply for this is:
paying back a debt that you took on before you separated from the parent with care, and the debt was for the benefit of the family or a member of the family. Please note that this does not include credit card or store card debts.
It seems to me that the debt you have is covered by this, so it's worth going for it. Quite possibly, when you put the variation in, it may be rejected - you'll get a leaflet with this telling you how to appeal - go for this. Again, time and effort, but no cost involved (apart from the cost of travelling to the tribunal). It's a slow process, so phone them every month to make sure it's progressing.
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