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Hi Pete,
Don't over think it. I know nothing of your situation really but i would put money on the letter being a knee [censored] reaction to anger on her part. I've been there bought the t shirt with that [censored].
You are trying to reason with someone who is not thinking reasonably, nor, i doubt are you for that matter. You will never get the apology you secretly hope for. You are a good man and will get contact just concentrate on that.
Absolutely do not justify your actions with the car seat. If indeed you did make a decision to transport your child in an inappropriate car seat. You bad lad. have you learnt anything? Nuff said. Don't make an issue of it. An example, today, in court i was accused of getting my daughter to school late. I sat there and took it on the chin. What a bad lad i am. A childs education is paramount, a key responsibility of a parent. But what the courts don't know because i wasn't able to respond, is Its a lie, she has never been late. And my ex neglected to tell the courts that she took my eldest daughter out of school during her first term of secondary school to go to the zoo!!! That's feckin' illegal. But, ultimately that's the role of a parent, we make decision on balance not all of them truly in the kids best interest. But, and this is the funny bit. The final straw that forced me to court was a letter (much like yours) which removed my midweek contact so my daughter could concentrate on embarking on a new chapter in her education!!! I assume that includes a day off to go to the zoo?
In other words - forget the battles - treat her like the dentist. You will do everything you can to avoid it, but ultimately you have to see them. when you do, be polite, that way they're less inclined to hurt you!
All the best pete.
Hi Peter_Martin
Thank you for your post, I am William the Child Maintenance Options consultant. All parents have a responsibility to provide regular and reliable financial support for their children. Contact and maintenance are not linked in law, distributions over one should not affect the other. The following link will provide contact details for organisations in your area that offer a mediation service http://find-legal-advice.justice.gov.uk/ that you may find useful.
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Thanks
William
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