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Hi. My question is on behalf of my brother.
My brother split with his ex about 9 years ago. He was resident parent to both of his children for about 6 months while she was setting up a new home.
She is a very vindictive person and once she realised he didn't want her back she started a claim with CSA which was not pursued as they came to a private agreement.
He has always paid for his kids and had regular contact including them staying over with him, taking them on holidays etc..
She has now started another claim for the youngest who is now 17 and at college. The ex says that he has never paid a penny and has not had contact at all since they split. It seems that because she said it first then it must be true.
He was told that he had to pay backpay of around £12,000 which of course he contested. He was able to prove that she was lying and they sent him a revised bill of around £600 which he queried as to how they reach that figure, surely there is a formula for working payments out or do they just pluck numbers out of the air?
Since then he has been told he owes £300, £0 and £16,000! Its a total joke.
My question is, can they ask for backdated pay to when she originally claimed 9 years ago? And surely the fact that she lied in her current claim (and he has proof) invalidates her claim as it was fraudulent?
What should his next move be?
Thanks in advance of any help.
Hi. there
Unfortunately they are a bit of a law to themselves. Once a case is opened, if it isn't officially closed, they can backdate so called arrears.
If your brother hasn't had anything in writing, it would be helpful for him if he asked for a written breakdown of what they say he owes. There is a complaints procedure that he can follow and if there is no resolution he can ask for help from his MP.
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