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hi,
sorry to hear your having a very tough time. i think you need to focus on your household and your partner. if my ex ever demanded more money over the CMS rates, I would tell her to get lost and get a job. your suferring now due to your pay cut, and its putting a strain on your
finances & relationship. i would advise you to stick to the CMS amount. just ignore her messages and calls. keep your phone on silent if its stressing you out so much.
if she stops you from seeing your kids, all you can do is take it to court.
I'm really not sure why you're paying over the CMS amount at all. Should not be a penny more.
You say it's to stop the texts and keep the piece?
Really, you pay £100 a month because of some annoying texts? How about you ignore them completely?
What's the worst that could happen?
I would only pay the csm amount then you can spend the 50-100 pounds on your daughter instead of giving it to ex.
i agree, get a new cheap phone and give her the number to use, and only switch it on when you want to, that way you take back control. Pay only what you are required to by CMS and save the rest.
You are suffering from what many see from their Ex wives. Mine is similar, doesnt matter how much CM I pay TBH, she still tells the children, friends, anyone really that I am not paying anything. Also makes my daughters pay for things that they shouldnt, but wants to keep the myth going that she does not have enough money. She earns pro rate £50K+ per year for 3 days a week and has a mortgage free house and my CM, but she would never admit that she is fine financially.
So the moral is, your Ex will whinge and complain however much you pay her, so you may as well ignore it where you can, just pay what is due and perhaps provide some extras direct to your children to help that relationship.
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