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Hi everybody.
I was just wondering if anybody can confirm what ive been told by a CSA help line.
My 17 year old son started an apprenticeship about 5 months ago as a car mechanic.
The apprenticeship was set up by the garage he works for and his employer pays him a monthly wage.
He goes to college 1 day a week for 6 hours.
When i spoke to the gentleman on the help line he told me because he only does 6 hours at college and not 12 that this isnt classed as a full time education.
He also told me that because the employer pays my son a taxable income my ex partner should no longer be entitled to maintenance payments.
He also mentioned if she was not entitled to child benifit (family allowance) which she isnt now...then she wouldnt be eligible for maintenance either.
I would just like to confirm the above so i know if maintenance payments should continue or not.
This isnt about the money. I have talked to my son and we are both happy for me to save the money to help him out with tools and equipment for work as we both know the payments i give my ex do not get spent on my son.
Thanks for any input.
Regarda
Wayne
Yes, that is correct - the only problem would be if the mother hasn't stopped claiming child benefit, in which case CSA/CMS will take their lead from that.
If you stop paying maintenance to the mother once this is sorted out, perhaps consider paying something directly to your son while he's doing his apprenticeship as they don't get paid very well?
If you stop paying maintenance to the mother once this is sorted out, perhaps consider paying something directly to your son while he's doing his apprenticeship as they don't get paid very well?
This isnt about the money. I have talked to my son and we are both happy for me to save the money to help him out with tools and equipment for work as we both know the payments i give my ex do not get spent on my son
Please re-read my post.
If you have an informal arrangement to pay CM to the mother, then it’s up to you both to negotiate, and armed with the information that has been provided to you, that she is no longer eligible, it wouldn’t be difficult to stop the payments.
As actd says though, if you pay through the CSA/CMS and she is still claiming the child benefit, you may have a problem convincing them that payments should cease.
As a young adult, your son could tell his mother what you and he have agreed and ask her to respect that decision.
Best of luck
If you have an informal arrangement to pay CM to the mother, then it’s up to you both to negotiate, and armed with the information that has been provided to you, that she is no longer eligible, it wouldn’t be difficult to stop the payments.
As actd says though, if you pay through the CSA/CMS and she is still claiming the child benefit, you may have a problem convincing them that payments should cease.
As a young adult, your son could tell his mother what you and he have agreed and ask her to respect that decision.
Best of luck
Thankyou Mojo.
We do have a private arrangement that i have stuck to for the entire time that we have been seperated.
She has already confirmed to me that she no longer receives child benefit over another matter not so long ago.
As ive already stated the money i pay her no longer gets spent on my son, i already provide him with money for public transport, uniforms for work , clothes etc, on top of the maintenance i give to his mother.
And as of lately he also stops with me more as it is closer for him to get to work.
So i think its only fair payments to my ex should now come to a stop.
I absolutely agree with you. We never stop providing for our kids, trust me! My two thirty somethings cost me more now than they ever did when they were young!
If you decided to be nice to her, you could give her a months notice that you will be stopping it, to give her a chance to adjust her outgoings accordingly.
Best of luck
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