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Hi,
I currently have a mutually agreed childcare arrangement in place with my ex but I am in the process of trying to get this turned into a Consent Order to make this agreement legally binding. My solicitor has submitted the C100 and other forms and I have been given a court date.
My issue is that my solicitor has advised that if you have have an agreement in place the courts are usually reluctant to make it into an order and that I need to put forward reasons why they should consider approving my case. Does anyone know what sort of reasons they would be looking for? With regards to my sons care his mum is a good parent and there are no safe guarding issues, my main reason for wanting this is because we had a mediation agreement in the past but I got a letter from my ex's solicitor saying as of a certain date this was changing to different arrangements which I had not agreed. I spoke with a solicitor at the time who basically said I couldn't do anything about it as all the rights were with the mother.
I then had to instruct a solicitor, go back and fourth trying to get the new agreement fair and I just don't want her to be able to change our agreement when ever she wants and have to go through the whole worrying again as well as financial cost of solicitors etc.
My other worry is that we currently have our son 50/50 and if I mention wether or not I should still having to pay maintenance I fear she may try to reduce my time with my son to stop this.
If you have read all this I greatly appreciate you taking the time and any advice would be greatly received.
Thanks
hi,
where there any times where your own arrangement was not being stuck too, or she was reducing your time with the kids from week-week, last minute changes/no-shows? any disputes over birthdays, xmas? you could give these reasons for wanting consent order, something legally binding that both parents will stick to.
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