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Hi i have a question about whether the mother of my son can just change child benefit over to her with a simple phone call which she seems to think is possible?
I have been claiming the child benefit for over 2 years ever since i was made redundant, my son was originally in full time nursery while his mum worked and claimed the benefits but she continuously kept not paying the nursery bills they was building upto £500- £600 at a time and was been sent letters requesting money even though this should of come from her benefits, At one point my mum had to pay a £600 nursery bill on her card as i was out of work and our sons mum had no money. Even when she was claiming i never paid maintenance as even then i had 50/50 access to our son and we shared the nights 100% equally and bought him whatever he needed depending on who he was with so we decided no need for maintenance
After i was made redundant i decided to setup my own business from home so as i had time free i said i should claim the child benefit as i can have our son during the days and there wont be an issue with nursery bills not been paid for etc so she agreed and i have been claiming it ever since he now gets 15 hours free nursery but all other times hes with me, i do not ask his mum for any money as we still share the nights i just have him in the days hence why i receive the benefits as i have him a lot more
She has since got a new boyfriend and now is basically saying she wants to take all benefits back and can do it by just phoning up even though she still has full time job and would continue to have one.
After this arrangement has worked perfectly for over 2 years my son is very happy has a great life and is well looked after could she really just ring up and switch it back because she's his mum?
Thanks in advance
Mark
I'm not aware that she is able to do this, but it might be worth you giving them a call to check on this.
It would be a good idea to have him registered with GP, nursery/school from your address. Perhaps you should preempt her by contacting the Child Benefit office and explain that you have him the majority of time, everyday and 50% of the nights and that the circumstances haven't changed.
Thanks for the feedback, he is already registered with my address for his nursery (as I have to fill in forms etc for his 15 hours free childcare) and he's also down at this address from his GP its where all the letter for his jabs etc come to
I will also give them a quick call to let them know nothing has changed
Thanks
Mark
I would also mention the fact that he is registered with the GP and nursery as living at your address.
All the best
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