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I have been paying an agreed amount for the last few years, and have been having my daughter every weekend. It’s difficult to have her any other time, as I work shifts. Early mornings, or late nights.
Everything’s been ok, but as with everything moneys been getting tight.
And on discussion with a friend, I realised I had been over paying her about £80 a month, for the last 2-3 years. (Using the Gov.com calculator)
I notified her a couple of times before dropping the payments.
Now after 2 months of the adjusted payments, she’s not happy. Telling me she wants me to only have her once a fortnight, as she wants the old payment back.
She doesn’t work, gets a fair amount of benefits, & has had her Mortgage paid for.
I work full time, & she appears a lot better off than me.
I feel like I’m being Blackmailed into paying more, to have my daughter…
hi,
how old is your child? yes it seems very unfair to see your child less often because of money disputes. would suggest to try keep peace. you may want to think about getting a child arrangement order from court. it sets out a schedule and commonly the non-resident parent sees child every other weekend. you could make case to keep current arrangement in place, but at the end the court would decide on arrangements.
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