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I currently pay child support to my Ex, I have not seen my son in a year as she made my life [censored], I got a court order when he was little because she kept stopping me seeing him, but that didn't make a difference. I pay £50 per week, im self employed but ive been offered a job in Australia, as this will be a staff position on good money even though the cost of living is higher I don't think I could afford to do it as if she goes to the CSA for more money again she will get 800 per month is what its worked out as, im married and we have 3 children who will be coming which I support. Im frightened if we sell up over here and move over 6 month later she will try claim for more money, ive always paid for him as that's my son but if she has been coping with 50 per week I don't think its fair for her to get £200 per week. She is a vile person who used my son as a weapon for years, she has a child with someone else and they are claiming every benefit under the sun when they both work, im not a grass but im so close. Even if I said to her look ill give you 100 per week I know for a fact she will turn around when im in Australia and go to my employer for maximum. Its not fair at all.
Hi Dad,
heres some info I found. You may have to check if this is still up to date:
The Child Support Agency only has jurisdiction in the UK, in other words England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. However, it does not include the Channel Islands or the Isle of Man. If one or more parties live abroad, the CSA is unable to give a calculation of the amount of maintenance a non-resident parent should pay. If either parent or the child is not resident in the UK, the court does have the power to make and vary a maintenance order.
http://www.childsupportlaws.co.uk/moving-abroad-issues.html
it basically says if your abroad, and working for a non UK company, then its difficult for CMS to go after you. but ex can still go to court to try and get you to make payments.
can I ask, have you applied for deductions, that you have 3 kids living with you?
CSA (and I assume therefore CMS) had reciprocal arrangements with Australia, so any assessment from CMS will be enforced in Australia,.
yes i have had all the deductions. if i give her 400 per month and i take the job in australia i should manage but if she decides she wants more money (which she will) she could potentially get about 800 per month. The wage is higher because the cost of living is higher, the rent for a house is 4 x my mortgage here in the UK. We are living our life around my ex partner, she has plenty of money claiming benefits while both of them work so its not like she is struggling. I have always paid money for my son but surely their should be a cap at how much you have to pay. If the government says this is how much child benefit you get for 1 child or 2 children then how cant it be the same for the paying parent.
i guessed that, its just wrong that im getting paid more cause cost of living is higher so my ex still gets the same percentage. Its all calculated wrong.
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