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Hi all,
I am in need of some advice on a rather strange situation. I recently moved back to the UK after living in the states for a number of years. I was happily paying child support there through remo as my ex refused to sort it out between ourselves (even though remo, the CSA in the US and the CSA in the UK all said not to use remo as the courts will charge a service fee....she didn't listen and then complained!!). Anyway...I am now back over here but work and get paid abroad even though I reside in the UK. I thought stupidly that we had sorted out payments between us, but little did I know that she had gone to the CSA again. As I pay EU taxes and not UK ones, the CSA said that I was out of their jurisdiction. Remo said the same thing and both said to work it out between us (sound familiar!!). She has now taken me to court. I took a massive pay drop to come back over here and the whole reason of coming back was to be closer to my daughter. All of my travel to and from work is out of my own pocket and I also have to run a house with a family of 5. I am currently giving her all I can afford and anymore would literally result in me having to give up work as I couldn't afford to get there otherwise. I am literally living hand to mouth (I don't drink, smoke, go out, no holidays and rarely see my daughter who I came back for) and if it wasn't for my parents helping...I would've sunk a long time ago. Moving back has been great in being close to family again...but financially, it has ruined me. If the court says I have to pay more I will sink instantly. Can anyone help advise me on what to do and where I stand?
Many thanks in advance
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