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Hello to all,
This is my first post on here so please don't shoot me down if I say the wrong thing.
Don't worry there's no way we would do that. How can we help?
All my post has disappeared..... I'll have to re write it
Hello to all,
This is my first post on here so please don't shoot me down if I say the wrong thing.
Hello to all,
This is my first post on here so please don't shoot me down if I say the wrong thing.
I'm sorry, it seems you are having difficulty posting what you want to say. Just write in the box and press the submit button. In the yellow box.
I have done but it's only showing my first part
I have being paying CSA for approx 14 years. My son has recently turned 16. My ex partner has never allowed me to see my son since I started paying. I have made attempts to get in touch but have always been shot down in flames.
Last year I got in touch with her through Facebook asking for her to meet me to discuss me being introduced into my sons life. I got a lot of messages saying that she and he don't need me, he has a dad (her husband) etc etc. One this was very hurtful, no one wants to read that, two I have been told to take these saved messages to a solicitor to see if they will stand up in court regarding CSA payments being stopped.
Has anyone experienced similar? And would these messages make any evidence that I'm just being used for money?
Many thanks in advance
Steve
Hi Steve
I'm afraid maintenance and contact are two entirely separate issues and one is not reliant on the other. If you are financially able to pay then you are expected to contribute to your childs upbringing. The only time this would change is if the step father were to legally adopt the child, then you would no longer be held liable.
It must be upsetting for you and as your son is now 16 the option of applying through the court for a contact order has passed.
Sometimes in situations such as yours, once a child becomes able they seek a missing parent out themselves, let's hope this may happen for you.
All the best
Thanks for this.
I'm certainly hoping he will when the time is right.
Thanks again
If he knows he has a father somewhere it's very possible he will want to find you, it's human nature to question where and who we come from. Your ex may say that he doesn't need you and he may have gone along with her, but inside he will be curious I'm sure.
I wish you all the best and hope that he makes contact sooner rather than later.
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