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Hi I've been seperated for 6months and my house is on the market.
When sold both my ex and myself will get smaller properties.
We have 2 small children
My wife works shifts 3 day on 3 days off.
I work Monday to Friday
I want to children alternative weekends and a night in between. My ex said cause her job sometimes goes over weekends she won't allow this.
My question is can she stop this surly me building a stable relationship with my child her job can't stop this can it ?
at the moment, I presume there is no court order, so it's between the two of you to sort out. If you can't then you will need to attempt mediation and if that doesn't work, then you would be looking at going to court, where they would certainly take work patterns into account. The ideal solution is that you find a solution that works for you both - there will need to be compromises but it is the best way forward if you can manage it.
Hi there
If this were to reach court the fall back order they would make would likely be alternative weekends and a weekly overnight....more or less what you are asking for.
If you can't reach agreement then mediation would be your first step, this is a requirement before an application to court can be made anyway. Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
If mediation fails then the mediator would sign off the form to enable you to apply to court for a Child Arrangements Order. There's plenty of information about the process in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section which you might find useful.
As actd has said the ideal situation is to try and reach agreement between yourselves, but where that isn't possible the court will usually make an order that reflects a fair share of quality weekend time for both parents to spend with their children. I would argue that as she is a 3 day on 3 day off schedule, quality time with the children isn't confined to weekends as it is for you and that would be my approach.
All, the best
Bearing in mind after every 6 times of 3 days on/off she gets 16 days off. So me asking for the weekens surly isn't out of the question
I don't think it is, its a reasonable ask and it's likely the court would agree.....get the ball rolling and start with mediation, with any luck she might just realise that it's in your childs best interests to reach an agreement that you can both be happy with.
It might be a good time to try and arrange extra time for summer holidays and christmas too.
Best of luck
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