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Hi,
I would like to seek advice!
I work offshore on a 2 on 2 off bases, which works out better because I get better quality time with my daughter.
When Home I get my daughter who is 18 months old;
Tuesday 1:00pm to Wednesday 3:00pm
Friday 1:00pm to Saturday 3:00pm
And Sunday 1;00pm-7:00pm.
I give my Ex £300 per month ( and also £100 to my daughter into an Isa per month for her 18th)
Now my Ex is asking me to pay for nursery fees on top of this ? what are the rules?
One problem is when registering my daughter my Ex would not name my daughter with my second name. So this was very hurtful and still bugs me to this day!!but obviously I had to sign it to get 50% rights. So she will be enrolling her into nursery with her second name. I says I have a would give her the money of she changed my daughters second name as I would be up to £550 roughly a month and shes wont even have my name. She knows how much I am there for my daughter always wanting to take her.
Thanks If anyone could give me advice and help.
Paul.
Hi and welcome to the forum
Here is a link to the CMS Calculator which will show you the minimum you should be paying to the child's mother.
Ordinarily, maintenance payments would cover things like childcare. Whether you pay above the CMS amount is your choice to make.
If you're having difficulty agreeing between the two of you on maintenance and any other small issues, it might be worth considering attending mediation together.
Good luck
Hello PaulMcg91
If you have a family-based arrangement in place, you may wish to try to discuss and negotiate your maintenance payments with the other parent. Although family-based arrangements are not legally enforceable, parents can decide the terms of their agreement to suit their current circumstances, as there are no strict rules or formulas to follow.
The Child Maintenance Options website has a useful tools and guides section that you and the other parent may find helpful when trying to negotiate your family-based arrangement. This can be found at http://www.cmoptions.org.
If you have case with the Government’s statutory scheme you may wish to contact them directly to discuss any concerns you have regarding how your maintenance. You will find their details on any letters they have sent you or on Gov.uk at https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance.
Paying parents are legally responsible only for the amount worked out by the Child Maintenance Service and are not obliged to pay for anything extra, unless they wish to do so. I have included a link on how the Child Maintenance Service calculates child maintenance that you may find helpful, https://www.gov.uk/how-child-maintenance-is-worked-out/how-the-child-maintenance-service-works-out-child-maintenance.
If you have a Consent Order/Minute of Agreement in place you may wish to see what is stipulated within your agreement as to where you stand with your maintenance payments and paying for anything extra such as nursery fees. Alternatively, you may wish to seek legal advice.
For more information on all the different ways to set up child maintenance and for a more personalised service, you can visit the Child Maintenance Options website.
The DWP have a sorting out separation web-app that you may find useful. It offers help and support to separating and separated families. The link is: www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/sorting-out-separation.
Regards
William
What does the CMS calculator say you should pay? If it's more than £300 per month, then she can go to the CMS and open a case, and that's what you'll have to pay, but it's to cover all costs, so you aren't obliged to pay anything extra, including nursery fees. The £100 you put into an ISA is totally irrelevant as far as the CMS is concerned, and that won't count towards the maintenance calculation. This is all assuming you can't reach a family based agreement as mentioned above.
With regards to your daughter's surname - do you know if you have Parental Responsibility? Were you registered on the birth certificate as the father?
If you do have PR, then she legally isn't allowed to change the your daughter's surname without you permission (or a court order) so if you do have PR, it's worth mentioning this to her, and that if she doesn't revert to her original surname, you can go to court (mediation first though) to get it sorted.
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