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I have been informed by the mother of my biological child that she has now married and would like for her new husband to be the legal guardian, adopt my son. I am happy for this happen as I have had no interaction with the child from day one but have always paid my way for 11 years through the CSA. I have also recently been informed that she has removed my name from the birth certificate.
Will I still have to make monthly payments via the CSA or will these now cease?
Can she legally remove my name without my knowing?
Hmm, I'm not sure you can remove a name from a Birth Cert unless it's proved the named person is not a biological father.
As far as maintenance goes, you would have to check with Child Maintenance Options but I wouldn't have thought you could stop paying. I guess I'm of the opinion that both parents should contribute to the costs of raising their child and share the parenting too.....
Hi there
She shouldn't have been able to remove your name from the birth certificate, all persons with Parental Responsibility have to be asked and permission given before any changes can be made. As you were named as the father on the birth certificate you had PR.
As far as the adoption situation is concerned, they will also have to get your permission and I don't think this can be done without making an application to court. Once the adoption has become legal you will no longer be financially responsible for the child.
it might be helpful if you were to talk to childrens law advice, here's a link to their website and contact details
http://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/contact-child-law-advice/
You could also get some advice about your position from the CAB.
Once you have clarification it might be a good idea to have it out with her. If she has removed your name , has she replaced it with her husbands? ..if she has done this knowing he is not the biological father that is illegal IMO.
Best of luck
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