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Hi there
This is my first post as I have gotten into a situation as my ex fiancee and I were going to get married, she got preg before and she changed and we split up before we got married
I would like to know what exactly happens now and what do you guys suggest?, I earn about £2200 after tax and pension and want to know how much could she get off me.
Also would it be better for me to not do it through the CSA and to be honest, I am not ready to be a father so I dont think I want to interact with the child.
We broke up 6 weeks into the preg and she wanted to keep the child, she though she lives in a free hold house with her parents who both work and she is a private nurse.
I live in a house with my parents but I am the only breadwinner and keep the house going but I assume that won't mean nothing, please help with my questions
Is it also true that she can ask to see my payslips or just the CSA
Thank you
Hi
The CSA calculation would be for 15% of your takehome, or £330 per month. You can make a Family Based arrangement which means you don't need to go through the CSA, but I would use the CSA calculation. I don't believe your ex can demand to see your payslips, but if she has doubts about whether you are telling her what you earn, she could ask the CSA to take the case, so showing her the payslips may be easier, or you could ask the CSA to take the case yourself anyway.
I would seriously reconsider your choice not to have contact with your child - it's something you can never get back later on and seeing your child may just change your mind.
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