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Report child abuse or neglect to your local council
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My ex is mental. To give you some background she lied to me about having cervical cancer(after we saw her stepdad die of cancer at the start of covid) for a year after seeing non proof of anything and her refusing to let me take her to appointments etc I messaged a lady from her work who she said had been taking her to appointments...it turned out she hadn't! I confronted my then partner and it still took weeks for her to admit it after producing fake doctors letters and the lot. And finally she admitted it wasn't real I took her to th GP for help( wasn't just me she told everyone she had cancer people were praying for her at church etc) we split up and agreed we would do 50/50 and avoid any maintenance costs she did a rota for us to follow which gives us 7 nights a week everythoughtnight meaning the exact same amount of nights in a year. She however looks after my little boy as he couldn't get a full time place at nursery as she quit her job. I have received a letter stating I have Monday just over 500 a month even though I have the kids half the nights and buy them everything they need. Take them non holiday etc. She is on 300mg of sertraline a day which is a high dosage she is not responsible and allows my kids to play outside alone at 3 and 5 years old.i regularly get messages saying one has hurt the other whilst in her care. She fell down the stairs last week with my boy her arms. I have tried to talk to my employer regarding doing the school pickups etc but it would be too disruptive to my job to allow. Has anyone else had anything simular and how done fight this? I do not beleive they are well looked after up at there mum's and I do not beleive I should have to pay as we both have the kids equal nights and on the gov website it says no maintenance is due if you have equal nights. I'm so stressed with it all and need it sorting. I'm sure I have missed loads of points so feel free to ask for anything useful. Thank you