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Hi im new on here and my apologies if this has been asked before
i was divorced back in 2011 and was granted shared residence but it was not a 50/50 split. I had my daughter every other weekend and one day in the week overnight.
As time and years went on the ex slowly allowed a total 50/50 split with overnights. She is actually with me more then her as shr comes on each school day and stays for a few hours on the days ahe should be with the ex.
Now i have been paying £238 a month on what the csa set me years ago but that was based on only the nights mrntioned above. About 5 years ago the csa left it to us and i pay her a direct debit. I didnt argue the case before but surely ss it is a total 50/50 split should i still br paying considering we go 50/50 on things like if she has a school trip abroad, tuition and driving lessons.
According to the government website i still should give her £80 a month based on calculations but iv also heard the law has changed and i dnt need to.
Really confused as i dont want another battle but if im paying when i should not have to(for many years) then i just need confirmation if anyone can kindly help
hi,
According to CMS rules, there is no maintenance to pay if you have equal day to day care of kids.
Regulation 50: https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2012/2677/regulation/50/made
@bill337 thanks so much
is there anything i could send to the ex where its laid out In simple terms as im sure she will kick up a fuss
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