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Hi All,
Cut a story shorth here i have been paying for my son since birth in 2002 as i was still then with my ex partner.til 2010
I was paying her £200 per month as i work offshore for my son whe n i was away as well as everything else, the payment gradually crept up as she had a few moans so went £300 then eventually £400 .
We Split up in 2011 and its for good, My Son loves to Stay with me when i come back from offshore and so he does I work away 28 on and then have 28 days off and in this time i get my son for the full duration of my time off, Ive been still paying her £400 per month Including when i have him. Ive had so many people ask me why am paying so much, I cut her payment this month October 2013 to £150.00 and now shes gone to CSA , Ive just Paid her off my mortgage £15,500.00 in one in which she never paid a penny of it.
I work as Limited Company and earn £420 a day so 6 months of the year i get that and the otehr 6 months im not paid, Im more than happy to pay for my son as he gets everything from me that he needs however Im not happy paying her £400 per month regardless what I am on as I have him 176+ days per year in my Care. so for her it has turned to Pure Greed.
I pay myself £1000 per month gross so when taxed its approx £915 that goes into my bank, I also give myself a Dividend of between £1000 and £3500 dependeant on what i need for that month.
I Just want to know where I stand for shared Care 50/50 and what will i need to pay the CSA, They require my enquiry form in by 23/10/2013 which is the day i fly back offshore. so have between now and then to fill it in.
Ive not received my tax for my first year yet so am unsure what i have paid etc?
As i say I will pay everything for my son as i have done since birth but im sick now of her Greed and TBH she deserves Not a penny out of me! I totally resent her now due to the greed situation.
Thanks
Blue
If you have your child stay over for more then 52 days a year, you should pay a reduced amount. The best thing to do is ring them and ask them.
Don't let them, or your wife fob you off.
If you google the CSA calculator and input your details then it will give you a rough idea of what you might expect to pay. There is also a sticky at the top of this section called "how does the CSA calculate payments" you might find that useful.
Hi, Im because im LTD company I don't know what they will take into account at the minute will they take into account what the company earns or myself as an individual because I pay myself 12,000 PA and give myself a Dividend monthly of around 1000-3000 depending on what I need that month?
My second son is self employed and when he and his ex split there was some argument about how
much my son should pay.
Up until then he had been paying over and beyond what he needed to
The CSA sent out some paperwork and whilst my sons ex was hoping for a bigger three figure outcome
and we were all shocked to discover that due to the fact his son is staying over about 48% of the time
he needed to pay less than £15 a week.
So yes..get onto the calculator to start off with and then get in touch with the CSA.
We found them to be helpful....might just have been lucky with the person dealing with
my sons case...lol.
Good luck
Kirsten
Thanks Kirsten, and all that have replied
Ive filled in Enquiry form as requested now so will have to see what comes back fingers crossed.
Think shes just got her Greed head on since we split up her true colours are coming out.
Hopefully I will pay similar. 🙂
When my ex decided that she would be entitled to 40% of my income (don't know where she got that one from) the CSA looked at our 50/50 split and awarded her £24 a week.
She laughed and gave me loads of grief when my school folded and I lost my job but the laughter stopped when they adjusted the payment to £8 a week 🙂 The funny thing was that my working tax and child tax credits went up, I got a job at another school within walking distance of my house, and now i'm cumulatively on the same wage that i was before- but she's only getting £32 a month.
I kind of feel a bit mean posting that but i'm still laughing- just like she did 🙂
My ex has just had the CMS calculate as she felt I was not paying enough.
The CMS calculated £70PM less that I was paying so her greed hasnt done her any favours and gives me more money to spend on our children.
It made me smile also.
This is good to hear.
Greed seems to be the main reason ex partners tend to go to the CSA as they see it as a cash cow.
Her greed is what prompted her to only let me have our children 26Hrs a week initialy. One overnight stay and a couple o fhours midweek.
On the first hearing this was put right however due to her health and psychiatric history (and other stuff) I am have requested sole residency.
She has fought tooth and nail with many underhanded accusations and refuses even shared residency.
Greed seems to play a large part for some.
Regards,
Dave
Hi Bluenose
Thank you for your post. I am William the Child Maintenance Options consultant. With you having a case with the Child Support Agency (CSA), you would need to contact them to see where you stand on your shared care situation. Please find some information regarding how they deal with shared care which may help you.
The CSA takes shared care into account in different ways depending on your child maintenance rate. Shared care applies if the paying parent provides overnight care for at least 52 nights per year before a liability will be reduced. This is based on the agreement with the receiving parent and or evidence. Shared care is usually determined over a twelve month basis, but shorter periods can be considered in appropriate cases.
Shared care is then taken into account, based on the number of nights of shared care for each child. The amount of child maintenance to be paid is then reduced by up to 50 per cent plus a further £7 reduction, depending on the number of nights, as long as this is for more than 175 days or more a year.
The CSA calculate child maintenance as a percentage of your net weekly income - this is to ensure that payments are affordable. They will take into account any other children that live in your household and also any other children that you are required to pay maintenance for. You will need to speak to the CSA directly to discuss if your dividends would be taking into consideration. You can find details of how to contact them via any letters they have sent you or the following link: http://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance provides their contact details.
There is a sorting out separation web-app that you may find useful. It offers help and support to separating and separated families. The link is: www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/sorting-out-separation.
To find out more about how Child Maintenance Options can help you visit http://www.cmoptions.org or call us free on 0800 988 0988 between 8am and 8pm Monday to Friday or 9am and 4pm on Saturday.
I hope this helps.
William
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