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Hi All,
Cut a story shorth here i have been paying for my son since birth in 2002 as i was still then with my ex partner.til 2010
I was paying her £200 per month as i work offshore for my son whe n i was away as well as everything else, the payment gradually crept up as she had a few moans so went £300 then eventually £400 .
We Split up in 2011 and its for good, My Son loves to Stay with me when i come back from offshore and so he does I work away 28 on and then have 28 days off and in this time i get my son for the full duration of my time off, Ive been still paying her £400 per month Including when i have him. Ive had so many people ask me why am paying so much, I cut her payment this month October 2013 to £150.00 and now shes gone to CSA , Ive just Paid her off my mortgage £15,500.00 in one in which she never paid a penny of it.
I work as Limited Company and earn £420 a day so 6 months of the year i get that and the otehr 6 months im not paid, Im more than happy to pay for my son as he gets everything from me that he needs however Im not happy paying her £400 per month regardless what I am on as I have him 176+ days per year in my Care. so for her it has turned to Pure Greed.
I pay myself £1000 per month gross so when taxed its approx £915 that goes into my bank, I also give myself a Dividend of between £1000 and £3500 dependeant on what i need for that month.
I Just want to know where I stand for shared Care 50/50 and what will i need to pay the CSA, They require my enquiry form in by 23/10/2013 which is the day i fly back offshore. so have between now and then to fill it in.
Ive not received my tax for my first year yet so am unsure what i have paid etc?
As i say I will pay everything for my son as i have done since birth but im sick now of her Greed and TBH she deserves Not a penny out of me! I totally resent her now due to the greed situation.
Thanks
Blue
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