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In my experience and many others on here I think, the RP has no desire to offer equal shared care where no maintenance is due - why would they? (unless the were very decent and thinking of the child).
So I expect she see's your request as being one where you do not want to pay CM and she gets nothing. So I think not a surprise she rejected.....
Exactly right! Thanks
other dad here made good suggestions. seems its so hard to get 50/50. instead of that just ask for more days like fri-mon, wed-thu every week. if judges/cafcass are sane, you may get it.
I only asked for 1 additional day per week which would effectively mean I would have my child more than she would. That's how close it is to equal shared care already! But she knows what she is doing.
I have exact 50/50 child arrangements in place.
I am not exaggerating when I say it took 20 phone calls, 4 letters, and then a threat from me to CMS to get them to agree that I should not pay anything.
Trick is to keep on quoting the legislation, provide the court order, and repeatedly asking them for an update.... and finally, state payments will stop unless CMS can direct me to the legalization that says otherwise.
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