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Hi, I hope somebody can give me some advice about this... My ex wife and I split up in 1993. We agreed that she took the house and I paid money to my sister who gave it to my ex wife for the my 3 kids. This was fine for a while but in 2002 when I got remarried she went to the CSA to say I have never paid anything. I had no proof of any payment I had made as I naively thought our arrangement was fine as my kids were supported and never imagined she would say otherwise. Since 2002 I have paid £520 a month to the CSA which absolutely cripples us and have ended up with bank loands and credit cards coming out of my ears but the CSA say that is not their problem. I have recently had a letter to say that the CSA is stopping as all of my children are now above 19 however the payments have carried on. when I called them up they said they would have to retrieve my file to look into it but I have £24,000 arrears (im not sure how they have worked this out and have been told several different figures over the years). I dont know if they are able to continue taking £520 a month out for me to pay the arrears and wanted to know if anybody else had experienced this? Even if they reduced my payment to a manageable amount as at the moment I fear I will sink completely if they keep taking that much. A while ago I spoke to an advisor for the CSA who said they were unable to retrieve the arrears as they cannot be sure exactly how much anybody would owe but that was one advisor and I never managed to get his name. Does anybody know anything about this? Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Mike
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