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I have always had a private agreement with my ex and have always payed for my daughter, I received a letter today asking for £3000 of unpaid maintenece, I called CSA and they said because my ex was on Benefits I wasn't allowed to have a private agreement in 2004 - 2005 as social security were supplying maitenece payments through benefits and that I now owe £3000 to social security!
Is this right ? I have already payed direct as I have been doing since 2001, The CSA say that if she denies that I have payed direct they will belive her word over mine even though I have the proof supporting my case, if she admits I have payed she will be done for fraud, "of course she is going to deny" is what the CSA have said - so I'm stuck with paying what I've already paid while she sits smug knowing she has already had the money and the secrety of states money too.. It's all wrong.
Is this right?? can I do anything ??
Oh dear, this is the trouble once the CSA are involved you should never paid direct to the ex
There is no proof
Have you got any proof?
Surely it was the ex's responsibility to tell the DHSS of any changes to her circumstances, including getting other money! This is what it says on all their correspondence to claimants... I suggest they're trying it on here, what if you didn't know she was claiming benefits, and if you are separated why would you!
If the CSA won't accept your proof then I would go and see your MP and make a formal complaint.
There is another option - you tell your ex that unless she pays you the money back, you will use your proof to argue your case, in which case she is prosecuted for fraud. If she agrees to pay, as far as the CSA is concerned, the money is coming from you and she doesn't get into trouble.
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